Sunday, August 11, 2013

I will go out to eat this week in memory of you!

For the last 3 years I have been blessed and privileged to spend time with my dear friend Coleen's mother, Agnes.  In the early hours of this morning Agnes went to heaven to be with friends and family.  As Coleen put it, "Celebration is happening in Heaven of that I am sure!"  Agnes was reunited today with her loving Husband and other family and friends.

Coleen would often ask me if I would like to come spend some time with her and Agnes.  This started when Agnes lived in Capital Towers.  We would go see her and sure enough about 20 or 30 minutes into our visit, Agnes would ask us if we would like to go out to eat and she would always offer to pay.  We would always say yes unless Coleen had already planned to make dinner.  Coleen would go get the car and I would escort Agnes down to the car. 

Dinner was always fun and Agnes would be full of smiles and laughter.  She had such a quick wit that it surprised you sometimes when she would come back at you with a comment about what you were talking about.  She was always so loving and would thank me numerous times for coming to see her.  She would tell me she loved me and thought the world of me because I would spend time with an old lady.  She also was a big flirt and would often tell Coleen that she could go home and I could stay with her.

As it became apparent that Agnes could not live alone any longer, they moved her to Patti's house.  At the house Shannon, Coleen, and Patti took care of her.  It was hard to watch Agnes' health and mind deteriorate.  It was getting worse as time went on.  Over the week we were at ASP, her health took a major turn for the worse.  It didn't seem like she would be able with us too much longer.

Coleen's daughter Alexis had a baby boy about 10 days ago.  About three days later Coleen was able to get a 4 generation picture with Great Grandma, Grandma, Mom, and baby boy.  It is a really nice picture. 

That brings us to this morning.  I was awoke at the hotel at Busch Gardens with the youth as Coleen was looking for Pastor Ben's number to call him.  She calmly told me that Agnes had past.  I asked her if she was ok and she was but needed to go and take care of some things.  I couldn't go back to sleep.  I went next door to the McDonald's and get a biscuit and some orange juice.  I sat in the McDonald's by myself and just started to picture Agnes and her smiling face.  It made me smile.

I know that the loss of a loved one is really hard especially a parent but when who see someone suffer or their quality of life is going down hill and life is uncomfortable, you know it is best for them to move on.  It is easier said than done and when that moment comes you are never ready for it.  Agnes got to see her great grandson before she passed.  Maybe when she saw that new life come into the world she knew it was ok for her to go to heaven.

There is a party in heaven tonight lead by one smiling, laughing, hugging, grandma.  She probably took everyone out to eat after that party.  Although we are left to carry on and will miss her, we know she is where she wants and needs to be.  The Lord will take care of her until her family can be with her again.  May the light of the Lord shine down from heaven.  There will be sorrow, love, joy, and pain but on this day, the 11th of August 2013, may there be peace.

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